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9/9 2014
9/9 2014

Tiny But Mighty Lessons

Do you ever have that feeling that people are in your life for a reason?   That there is a reason that you were in a certain place at a certain time?  In my practice, I'm regularly called to WAKE UP.  To pay attention and to walk my talk.  

When it comes to weight loss, the majority of the people in this world think they have it figured out. They know that eating better and moving more is important, and yet they beat themselves up for not being able to stick to the plan.  Breakfast starts with good intentions and then by 3pm, they are diving into the bowl of M&Ms (or insert your vice here.)

Then the voices kick in.  “Tomorrow I will be better.”  “I have no will power.”  “I’m just meant to be heavy.”

These words are like lead weights. They are H-E-A-V-Y, and the longer you allow them valuable real estate in your mind, the further you will be from your goal of weight loss, happiness and peace in your life.  

For me, this week began like most others.  Taking the kids to school, going to the gym, cooking some good food and working with my clients.  That last part (the clients) is what has my attention right now.  3 clients in particular got me thinking about what I NEED TO PAY MORE ATTENTION to.  If you are someone who is struggling with weight loss or fatigue, you might want to pay attention yourself.

Client #1:  We were talking about her work and her feeling stuck.  She has been spending a lot of time working with little reward.  She’s not having much FUN.  The conversation turned to some recent conflict she has been having with her husband.  I asked her what did she REALLY want?  She said “I want to take the money stress out of my marriage so that we can PLAY.”  


Don't wiat for the perfect body, the big paycheck or the right amount of love.  

Client #2:  The women I work with often come to me carrying a lot of heavy baggage. They have wounds from the past, whether that be from neglect, abuse, disappointment or shame.  It’s kind of like when you eat a big greasy hamburger and it just sits in your belly like a rock.  

So many women have undigested experiences that are literally weighing them down. Today I spent some time with a client who has a "baggage" weighs a ton.  And – to make it even worse, she keeps putting more “stuff” in her bag (negative thoughts, assumptions and judgements) and is wondering why the scale isn’t budging.


(Unless of course you are lifting weights because that builds lean muscle which BURNS fat.)  

Client #3:  When you do the same thing day in and day out, it’s easy to carve out a rut in your pattern and feel stuck.  Take my black lab for example.  Every time I throw her a tennis ball in the back yard, she runs back on the same path, no matter where the ball landed.  She actually goes out of her way to be on that same path where there has not been any grass in 2 years.  

One of my clients today told me that she has the habit of hanging out in her home office.  It’s a space she likes, where she can get lost in her work, email or social media.  Forget about eating well or moving!  She finds herself going back to that space.  Going out of her way to stay in that groove and NOT moving toward her goals.


Make the spaces or places where you fall into YOUR rut, off limits at certain times of the day.  Break the pattern and let the grass grow back in that path that you have been stuck on.  

It’s funny how these lessons show up in our lives.  This week, I encourage you to open yourself up to hearing the lessons that YOU are meant to hear.  Do you have some heavy stuff that needs to be put down?  Do you need a little bit more play in your life?